Love Advice From the Inexperienced

Adriana Perez

While I love shows from all genres and themes, my favorite category by far would have to be bad shows that I watch to make fun of, including “Emily in Paris,” “Glee” and—while not a show but might as well be one—the trainwreck that is modern love. Since I’ve had the absolute pleasure of hearing all of my friends’ relationship problems, I feel like it’s my turn as a single person to complain about what I believe is wrong with romantic relationships in this era.

First off, situationships–where you’re constantly doubting whether you actually have a connection with someone or if you’re just making it up all in your head. Fun, right? It’s a great way to avoid commitment while still being able to fuel the fantasies in your head. I mean, who needs emotional stability anyway?

Speaking of stability, where has she gone these days along with her best friends’ loyalty and communication? Seriously, if I wanted to decode messages and piece together information, I’d join the FBI. At least then I’d be paid for the work that is looking through friends’ screenshots and analyzing text threads like they’re classified documents and trying to figure out intentions via emojis. 

And these conversations? It’s all just small talk. Like I get it, it’s easier to talk about favorite movies than childhood traumas, but can we discuss something with actual meaning? Sure, they’re hard conversations to have, but the conversations I’ve been hearing lately have sounded more like they’re out of a reality show than real life.

Look, maybe I shouldn’t be judging (considering I have no experience), but if there’s one thing I know, it’s this: love isn’t the feeling you get when you’ve spent hours waiting for someone to respond to your text and jumping at your phone when you hear the buzz of a notification just to see it’s your Google Classroom telling you that you have an assignment due tomorrow. It’s not knowing someone’s favorite color or top artists. It’s a choice. It’s this messy, painful yet beautiful commitment (that I’m honestly jealous of people who have it), because it is possible. It’s definitely a journey to get there, but with time and the right person, along with communication and loyalty, there’s a chance you can make it out of this maze that is the dating world.